Dear Christine,
I RECENTLY HAD A BABY for a man who did not stay by my side when I needed him most.
He turned his back on me the moment he knew I was pregnant because he felt the child was not his own, although I did nothing to make him distrust me.
As a result, I was forced into a situation where I had to turn to someone else for help.
This fellow helped me with all I needed for myself and the little one.
Now after treating me so badly, the real father is coming around to make trouble. He says he does not want his child calling another man daddy and he wants me to come back to him.
Christine, I don’t intend to. I believe if a man can leave a woman in her time of deep trouble, she should never have anything more to do with him again, no matter what he might have to offer.
I feel that even if he had doubts, he could have waited until after the baby was born to see the child was his. He did not care whether I lived or died.
Please tell me what you think about my situation.
– H.L
Dear H.L.,
It’s not easy to be rejected during a time of pregnancy, so I can understand how you feel.
Is there no room at all for reconciliation? Can you honestly say that you do not love this man anymore?
There is always the opportunity to forgive. Maybe you can find it in your heart to forgive. You can forgive and mend the fence, so to speak; that is, to take him back, or you can forgive and move on.
However, you must beware of the consequences that child may have to face if she does not or is not allowed to bond with her biological dad.
I suppose also that since he disclaimed the child, he has not even signed any paper acknowledging fatherhood.
Love will forgive almost anything but no one can honestly blame you if the love you felt for him has gone out of your heart.
Whatever decision you make, be sure your young child is not affected in any way.
– CHRISTINE
