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DEAR CHRISTINE: Wedding may be off if I tell my secret


DEAR CHRISTINE: Wedding may be off if I tell my secret

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DEAR CHRISTINE, I AM JUST a few months away from marrying the man whom I truly love, but one thing keeps me wondering if I’m doing the right thing.

My “husband to be” wants me to have a child with him but I discovered recently after a visit to the doctor that my chances of becoming pregnant are not looking good. I already have a son who is eight years old and back then I had some complications with his birth.

I want to be sincere and honest with my husband to be but I think that the shock of telling him this may rule out my chances of getting married.

He also has a son from a previous relationship but said specifically he wanted me to try for a daughter.

I am 35 years old and he is 40.

Since we have already booked the place for the wedding, made a deposit and even purchased rings I am not sure what I should do at this point.

Would it be dishonest of me to wait until we are married to tell him about my problem?


Dear WST,

Yes, it would be dishonest to keep this all to yourself, raise his hopes when you do get married and make believe you never knew in the first place.

You must find the time to sit down and have a serious talk about your findings. If this man truly loves you he will marry you anyway, but to raise his hopes and then let him down is something he would probably take very hard.

Honesty is always the best policy. Be frank with him and let your conscience be clear about this matter.

I don’t believe he would put off the wedding because of this – not if it is true love. You both can consider adopting a child or just be content with the two both of you have between yourselves.

In any case, who is to say you’ll bring forth a daughter if you do become pregnant.

Another thing you should do is get a second opinion – perhaps before you talk to him. Whatever you do, choose to be honest.