Dear Christine,
I AM BURDENED with grief and shame. You see, I am married and although my husband is not the best, he’s not a bad man. He likes going out with the boys and he’s had a couple of girls running after him but he’s always home.
Anyhow, out of my loneliness, I got involved with another man who is married and also has a family. We knew from the start that our relationship could not be anything but physical as we did not want to get become too involved so that our partners would know about it and be hurt.
Recently he seems to be cooling off. He does not keep the appointments we make and he has not telephoned the number of times he used to. There is always some excuse, but though he says nothing is wrong, I feel it’s the end.
I am trying hard to forget him but find it very difficult. What should I do?
– G.H.
Dear G.H.,
Try harder. For women in particular, relationships of the kind you got involved in seldom remain purely physical.
You are not a prostitute selling your body for a price. You’re a woman who must have been moved by some deeper emotion to cause you to betray the trust your husband placed in you. At the same time, you risk losing him and all he has done for you.
If you are happily married despite the flaws in your husband, you may live to thank this man for giving you the cold shoulder so that you can return to making a real success of your marriage.
If it is more of your husband’s company that you need, why not let him know? I guess he cares enough to spend some of the time he spends with the boys with you.
As regards the girls who run after him, you’ve got to remember that he still makes for home.
– CHRISTINE
