DEAR CHRISTINE, I AM 28 YEARS OLD and have been married for eight years. Everything was going well until a few months ago. I began seeing a great change in my husband.
In truth and in fact he is not making love to me the way he always did.
All the nice things he used to say and do to me have now disappeared in the wind. When he does make love to me, I tell you, it’s boring, never satisfying.
I have been told that he is seeing some other woman. I have asked him about it but he never responds. I love my husband dearly and I don’t ever want to lose him or be unfaithful to him, but I am only human and things do cross my mind.
Please advise me soon. I feel I am going crazy, crazy.
– GP
Dear GP,
Let’s set some sane sights on this situation.
Keeping sex exciting is also your responsibility. Have you just been taking and judging your husband’s performance without trying to keep his interest?
It is felt that if husbands are having affairs they usually try to cover this up by being particularly nice to their wives; employing all their new sexual gifts and even throwing in some presents for extra measure.
That he does not respond to your accusations might be that he does not appreciate them, especially if they are not true, and I would not rely too much on what you have been told.
Your husband is still in physical contact with you, so give him the fullest expression of your sexual capabilities and don’t forget to say the nice things to him he enjoys hearing.
If perchance he is going through a lapse, the new lovable you should make him rethink the folly of an outside affair, which could jeopardise his marriage. Give it a try.
– CHRISTINE
