DEAR CHRISTINE: Torn between two lovers
I WOULD LIKE you to help me with this problem. I am 22 years old and have two boyfriends. I am living in a house with one. The next one I would say is too serious about me, knowing that I am living with this other guy.
When I am going out, this other guy is always trying to make me shame by pulling me about in the street. He does not want me to go anywhere and is always telling me he is a very jealous fellow. He gives me what I ask for.
I told him a few weeks ago that I am finished with him but he still meets and interferes with me; always telling me how much he loves me.
To be truthful Christine, I don’t love him as much as I love my boyfriend in the house. Please tell me what to do.
You’re playing with fire and if you are not careful, you’re going to get burn.
The man who is providing you with a home must also be providing you with food and so on; and even though you say you love him, you keep in touch with this other fellow because he gives you what you want. You cannot expect to be asking and getting, and not giving in return.
I can’t help feeling that you are flattered by this other man’s attention, while taking what he has to offer, and risking losing the love of the young man with whom you share a house and profess to love. You should be aware that like the dog in one of Aesop’s fables, you do not lose the juicy bone for the shadow.
Loyalty is love in action; such as staying out of the way of the one who is keeping you involved with him, while you are living with another.