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Run girl, run from this man!

Dear Christine, I HAVE BEEN with my boyfriend for two years. I am 19, he is 24 and we are engaged. You may think we are probably moving too fast in our relationship, but I don’t see it that way.

However, I do have a concern and that is my reason for writing to you.

I hope you are able to point me in the right direction.

I love my fiancé and I cannot imagine my life without him.

However, over the last four to five months he has become

emotionally abusive.


He’s never wrong. He gets angry with me if I do not see things his way, and he yells at me over little things. Once he told me I was a fool because I disagreed with something he said.

He used to treat me great, and now this. I miss how it used to be, and I cry almost every day.


In the past, I always told myself I would never put up with something like this, but I have been putting up with his behaviour and it gets harder every day. I know it’s not physical, but isn’t it emotional abuse? Please help me.

I need to know there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Right now, I am not so sure if there is.

– PRECIOUS Dear Precious, You’re too young to be faced with such emotional and verbal abuse. I don’t see love written all over your letter.

In fact, I am concerned about your emotional state and safety.

If what you are experiencing now is a preview of how the rest of your life will likely be, you need to hand over that engagement ring and bid this young man goodbye.

When a partner becomes controlling and emotionally abusive, in most cases it’s only a matter of time until the physical abuse begins.

If you’re smart and you care about your own peace and safety, you’ll end the relationship right away.

You will only see the light at the end of the tunnel when you do.

Love yourself more than you love this man. Exit this relationship and don’t even agree to maintain a friendship with him.

Run. Your very life may depend on it.