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Hard time coping with dad's death


Added 12 May 2010


Dear Christine I am writing this letter with tears running down my cheeks. I don’t know if I am coming or going.

Christine, I never knew how valuable life was until I lost my dad around Christmas time, and ever since I haven’t gotten over his death. I am going through a stage of deep depression. I’m having a lot of family problems and feelings of very low self-esteem.

I just hated myself. I have no idea why.  I would joke about death to my friends, and a few times I would even talk about trying to kill myself. All I want to do is go where I would feel no pain and no sadness. No one else really pays any attention to me or seems to care that I’m fading away. I think about my dad all the time and can’t get him off my mind.

Christine, I finally realise that I will take the easy way out. I don’t want to live anymore. The pain is too much to bear.  Christine, I know you help people, but you can’t help me. I’m hurting so much. Bye, Christine. – S

DEAR S: My deepest sympathy on the death of your father, but please do not give up on life. I pray that I am not too late to help. Because you can be helped. You have left no phone number or address, so I can only hope you are reading this.

If you are, I would like you to call the Bereavement Hotline at 437-3630 It is a hotline that is manned 24 hours with people who will listen to you and will help you to feel better about yourself.

Life sometimes deals us heavy blows, but once “you can look up, you can get up”, according to motivational speaker Les Brown.

We all reach a stage at some point in our lives when we believe that we can’t go on, but we must. Life is very precious and can be very beautiful. At the moment it is not very beautiful for you, but, please turn to God with prayer and also try the hotline.– CHRISTINE.


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