DEAR CHRISTINE, I AM a regular of your column and I would appreciate you giving me some advice.
I am 22 years old and have a good job. There is a man who is madly in love with me but he is married.
Christine, I love this man too. We enjoy ourselves whenever we are together. No place is too expensive for him to take me.
Christine, I also have a boyfriend but this married man does not want me to go anywhere unless he knows where I am going and with whom. If I don’t tell him he would follow me. I must not talk to anyone besides him and I must always be careful in choosing my friends. He is well respected and loved by many.
He is one of those men who we would say “has it all”. He is high in society but I am afraid I must find a solution to end this relationship.
When I say to him that I think it should end, he goes raving mad and says he is going to see I do not fall in love with anybody else. He goes so far as to say that I am his woman and I cannot stop it, so don’t even bother to try.
Christine, this man should realise he has a wife. He says when she dies I will be his wife. I told him I don’t want his ring. Please tell me what to do to rid myself of this man.
– S.T.
Dear S.T.,
I guess that now the smoke has become fire, you can’t handle the heat. That’s what happens when you play with fire.
You knew when you started a relationship with this man that he was already someone else’s husband and you already had a boyfriend. Now you have gotten yourself into a mess because of your dishonesty and perhaps greed. You say in your letter, “Christine this man should realise he has a wife” Didn’t you realise it too?
You are quite a contradiction. You admit to loving a married man and at the same time you say you have a boyfriend. Is your boyfriend blind or simply accommodating?
If you really want to end your relationship with this married man (which should not have started in the first place), you should not be bullied by him in continuing it. If he is all that respected and loved and considered “high in society”, he is not going to make public his little affair. The way to end it is to stop seeing him, period.
– CHRISTINE