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DEAR CHRISTINE: Boyfriend won’t support his child


Added 03 May 2017


Dear Christine,

I ALWAYS READ the advice you give to people about their love problems, so I do hope you can help me with mine.

Christine, I have a boyfriend who says he loves me, but he does not really prove it. When I talk to him about it, he always says: “It is just a feeling of yours.”

Another thing – I don’t know what I did to this boy’s family but they just don’t like me one bit. I have a one-year-old baby for him and he has another child almost the same age. His mother does not give my child even a sweet because she says that it is not his. Not even he himself gives the child anything. However, everything the other child wants, it gets, and he always has it driving about in a car they have.

Christine, the only money he ever gave me when I was pregnant and since the child was born was . . . . Since that, not another cent. He does not even say, ‘let me purchase a cough mixture for it’.

The only time I see him is when he has a chance to get away after I phone him at work, because I do not go to his mother’s house.

Christine, the only time I do not study all this is when I am busy working. However, from the time I reach home and I’m about to rest or just relax, everything just flashes straight into my mind and, poor me, I can’t help the tears falling from my eyes. I am sick and fed up with this man’s attitude but somehow it’s just like I cannot leave him because he is my first boyfriend.

I leave you now as I have to give others space to write, otherwise I would tell you everything. Please answer me urgently.

– G.P. 

Dear G.P.,

That you are sick and fed up with this man is a healthy sign. As soon as you realise that he is not worth your tears, you’ll feel better.

He is uncaring and callous. Maybe he never cared in the first place but just made use of your affection for him.

If it is possible, try to get some legal support for your child. If not, then thank God that you are working and can take care of the practical side of things.

I promise you that time will take care of the hurt, especially if when you think of him, you remember how cruel he and his family are to you and your child.



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