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DEAR CHRISTINE: Second man seems a mistake


Added 05 May 2017


Dear Christine,

I HAVE A CHILD and I am contemplating a divorce, as my husband and I have not been getting along for a number of years. He is neglectful and unfaithful. He seldom sleeps home and we have little to say to each other.

A few months ago I moved back to my father’s home but it has made no difference. He has not even bothered to come around. Our love for each other died a long time ago.

Recently I made friends with a very nice gentleman who made me understand that he loves me. It is because of him that I am proceeding with divorce proceedings because he said he wanted to marry me.

Lately, however, he has become very casual. Several days would go by without him contacting me. What should I do? I feel sad and depressed over everything – my broken marriage and now this man’s indifference.

– T.M

Dear T.M,

It appears to me that your marriage is over and you are proceeding with your divorce. Go ahead if there is no hope of a reconciliation with your husband but do not let this other man influence your decision. My feeling is that if he was really serious about wishing to marry you he would not behave the way he does.

Bear in mind also that no matter how far apart you and your husband have grown, at the time of the divorce you will almost certainly feel a sense of sadness and depression, and to make a choice of a second husband could be a mistake.



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