Dear Christine,
I have been married for seven years. The first two were some of the best years. I could not ask for more.
We were extremely happy but then my husband started to drink seriously. At first he would stay out late on Friday nights, then three or four more nights a week.
Now, there is hardly a night that he comes in early or sober. He is not a bad-behaved drunk. He is either full of fun or he is out cold within minutes.
He works for a good salary but I see very little of it. Most is spent on liquor either with his friends or what he brings home.
A few months ago he started talking about a baby. With things as they are I do not want to have a child. In fact, I have often thought about leaving.
I love my husband and I am tempted to do as he asks because he feels that our not having children is what makes him drink.
What do you think?
– L.O.
Dear L.O.,
I think that is utter rubbish. He cannot blame not having a child for his drinking problem. If that was the case, then why is he now talking about a child?
He needs to face up to the fact that he is an alcoholic and if he is serious, he should join Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) to help him fight this problem.
Any time a man can spend almost all his salary on alcohol, there is no doubt whatsoever that he needs help.
Persuade him in every way possible to get the help he so badly needs; even if you have to call AA yourself and, of course, accompany him to the meeting, if he agrees.
If he refuses to seek help, forget about bringing a child into such an environment. You can also decide whether or not you want to stay in this marriage.
– CHRISTINE
