There is no other part of the human anatomy that has more names than the vagina.
Most of them make no sense at all yet we all use them or used them before. Where did the words nookie, poom poom, fluff, nah nah, and punani come from? I am sure there are more than 1 000 words for this small yet very significant part of the female anatomy and each region has its own unique names.
Have you ever wondered why the vagina draws so much attention? There are some of you who are reading this article only because the title had the word vagina in it. Nuh need tuh be ashamed. It is okay to smile because you know it is true.
I don’t know if we as humans have given too much relevance and power to the vagina, but I believe most women know it is something powerful they carry within them. If it is misused and abused, it can be very destructive but once used in the manner it was created for (procreation and pleasing your own husband) it can be very constructive and can create beautiful experiences.
Kings, politicians, presidents, the wealthy, the poor, priest, the strong, the educated and the weak have all crumbled under the power of the vagina – or, should I say, the power of woman and her vagina.
The first man, Adam, the wisest man, Solomon, the strongest man, Samson, and the worshipper and king, David, all fell to the power of woman and her vagina.
You might be wondering, where I am going with all of this?
Monday morning I woke up and went on my computer to check the news and was presented with this heading on BBC News: Togo Women Call Sex Strike Against President Gnassingbe.
Women in Togo have been urged to abstain from sex this week to push their demand for reform. The ban has been called by opposition coalition Let’s Save Togo. Opposition leader Isabelle Ameganvi said that sex could be a “weapon of the battle” to achieve political change.
The coalition wants President Faure Gnassingbe, whose family has held power for decades, to stand down.
“We have many means to oblige men to understand what women want in Togo,” Ms Ameganvi, leader of the women’s wing of the coalition, told the BBC.
Some of you have never heard of sex strikes. In activist communities it is generally known as “Lysistratic nonaction”. This method of striking was inspired by Lysistrata, a Greek comic play in which Aristophanes’ heroine encourages women to abstain from sex to end the Peloponnesian war. In the play, the action was successful but there is not sufficient evidence to support the view that sex strikes in the real world are generally successful.
When I first read the article I didn’t know what to think, but then I asked myself a few questions.
Should a woman use or continue to use her vagina as a means to get what she wants and control some men? Is this action sending the wrong message about where women place their value? If a husband doesn’t agree with the method of striking, should the wife submit to his desire and leadership?
Who will monitor the success of the strike? Would a sex strike potentially increase the chances of rape and sexual abuse? Would men ever hold a sex strike? How will children and teenagers interpret this action? Would this work in Barbados?
Doesn’t a married man have a right to sex from his wife? Isn’t there another approach the opposition could take? Shouldn’t a woman’s husband have greater influence over her than a politician?
I don’t support the idea of a sex strike as it has the potential to bring discord and unbalance to a relationship. We use the term “shop shut” and laugh and joke about it, but I see it as a serious situation.
I don’t believe that a woman is a robot and must give a man sex every time he wants it. But if she uses her vagina as a tool of manipulation and control, she has lost her title as a spouse or partner and should be called a witch.
• Corey Worrell is a former Commonwealth youth ambassador. Email [email protected]