DEAR CHRISTINE: My sister’s boyfriend has feelings for me
Greetings to you and the staff at THE NATION. Let me wish you all the best for the New Year.
I read your column on a regular basis and I always appreciate the advice that you give. Like many who have written to you before, I never thought I would one day be doing the same, but I know I have good reason to do so since I believe you’ll give me some sound advice.
My sister is five years older than I am and I’m still a teenager at school. We have had a relatively good relationship. We’ve had our differences and sibling rivalries but I’ve never held anything against her.
She started seeing a guy about a year ago. He would visit our home and we would see each other away from the house.
One day when I went on an errand, I met up with her boyfriend who made a pass at me. I was shocked because this is the man whom my sister loves and trusts.
Since that day things have been awkward when he visits. Although he visits to see her, he constantly watches me. On one occasion we caught the same minibus and I was very uncomfortable when he sat next to me and told me how he felt about me. Of course, I put him in his place.
My heart is telling me that I should tell my sister what he has been up to, but I do not want to bring about any bad feelings between us or be the reason for their break-up.
I cannot share this information with any other member of the family because they also like this guy and his parents and mine are friends. What can I do about this situation?
I agree that telling your sister may not be the best thing at this point, but you should warn him that if he continues to express any more feelings towards you that you will tell your sister.
If after you’ve told him this and he continues to harass you, I also believe you should speak to your parents.
Don’t continue to protect this two-faced man.