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DEAR CHRISTINE: Boyfriend doesn’t want my son

BEA DOTTIN, [email protected]

DEAR CHRISTINE: Boyfriend doesn’t want my son

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Dear Christine,
I have been involved with a man for the past three years. [Even] before I met him he was quite aware that I had a then eight-year-old son who was living with my mom. At the time he made it abundantly clear that he did not want the child living with us.
As it stands, he is still legally married as the divorce is not final. Two months ago my mom passed away and this man has still refused to accept my child, who has had to go and live with his father’s sister – his aunt.
As things are right now, this man cannot adequately provide for me, but that’s okay as I have a home which is rented out and a reasonably good salary.
My son has told me he wants to live with me. Right now he is only allowed to come to my home when my boyfriend is not [there]. I hate this conflict. What can I do?
– RY
Dear RY,
Do you actually have the nerve to ask me what to do in a situation like this? You have robbed your young son of a mother’s care, love and attention. It is not enough to love him from afar and treat him so cruelly because of a man who only cares about himself.
Your child should be your priority. To make matters worse, the man you’re with is not quite yours – he’s married!
How can you put a man before your own flesh and blood who needs you? What right does this man have to deprive you of a relationship with your son? Get your act together! If this man does not want your son around, he should not want you either. He must be willing to accept the total package.
I’m really surprised you’ve put up with his nonsense for so long.
If it means moving into the house you currently have rented out to enjoy a relationship with your son, do so as quickly as possible and leave this selfish man out of your life.