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DEAR CHRISTINE: Feeling left out on holidays

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DEAR CHRISTINE: Feeling left out on holidays

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Dear Christine,
MY WIFE AND I will be celebrating our 40th wedding anniversary this year, and I have had the same gripe for the past 39 years. What on God’s earth makes women think that holidays are only for them?
Last year on Valentine’s Day, I gave my wife a lovely silver and gold chain with a matching bracelet and earrings. I would have loved to have seen a bottle of champagne in the bedroom or received an invitation to go out for dinner. No such luck!
Three months before our anniversary I planned a weekend at a first-class hotel and for her birthday, we went on a two-week cruise. On our anniversaries, I am lucky to get a card from her.
Christine, we live in a neighbourhood where I see many wives making a fuss over their husbands. Every time I mention my feelings, my wife tells me that holidays are for wives. The topper was when she said: “I go to bed with you; what else do you want?” Her favourite is, “You have everything; I don’t know what to get for you.”
I could go on, but this is enough for one letter. Thanks for listening and I welcome the input of your readers.
Dear Hurt Husband,
Your wife is selfish (there are some like that around) and she should be ashamed of herself. If you give and give all the time, why can’t she give to you
in return?
Although most people of a certain age have most of the material things they need, everyone likes to be remembered on special occasions.
I can offer her some suggestions, but since actions speak louder than words, be bold enough to show her this column. Tell her that gift-giving should be a two-way street.